I hope some of you find another way, someday.

after you’ve had enough of the trip down memory lane, write down everything you recall from the moments of reflection, whether it be good vibrations or otherwise.

then write 1 word that describes what that memory brings out in you.

example: i was 22 and my mother told me i was a fuck up just like my father = UNWORTHY

example 2: i was on the bus and this group of kids started laughing and i assumed they where targeting
me as they where looking in my direction and pointing = HELPLESS

example 3: i thought i met the woman/man of my dreams but they turned out to be my worst nightmare and
our kids are traumatized because of all the arguing and hateful exchanges = FAILURE

these are all real examples of the traumas that occur in our lives that we may not always address in a timely manner so as to not become crippled by these typical life events……..

after you’ve attached a word to describe the trauma, attach the polar opposite of that word.

UNWORTHY/ WORTH IT
HELPLESS/ BRAVE
FAILURE/ ACCOMPLISHED

now take the better word and write it/them down on a piece of paper. keep that piece of paper in your space at all times; in your pocket, wallet, on the wall, self texted messages, etc.

and at least 100 times a day for 20 days consecutively glance at the key word(s) until they’re in your consciousness.

after 20 days consistent, attach an action to each key word that will encourage that feeling.

WORTH IT = LEARN TO MANAGE MONEY LIKE A FINANCIER
BRAVE = TAKE A MARTIAL ARTS CLASS, BOXING, SELF DEFENSE
ACCOMPLISHED = RUN 2 LAPS AROUND THE TRACK IN 4 MINUTES 3 TIMES A WEEK

now you’ve worked FROM the BOTTOM of a traumatic event TO a PRO ACTIVITY that you can commit to.

take a week and research how to commit to doing each one at least 2 times a week for at least 30 days. the ideal location, the price point for classes, a book/ manual, etc. work out the details.

now your ready to get your shit in order!!!

write out a personal contract that holds you completely accountable for your actions/ lack there of.

date it and sign it. GET TO WORK……..

at the end of 30 days, write out what you did, how much money you spent, how much time you invested on each action and the feeling you had as you where doing it.

NOW TAKE THAT LIST AND TERMINATE IT!!! burn it, shred it up into small pieces and toss it in the trash.

if you make it to this point, post your experience for other people to read and gain hope and control.

“we all suffer, we all cause suffering. we all fall but only some get the hell up”

you can’t overcome what you don’t plan to, so get to work folks. depression is not a journey or a destination, its a rest stop.