Comments on: 7 great ways to keep a relationship alive http://www.willitchangeyou.com/7-great-ways-to-keep-a-relationship-alive/ The Best in Personal Growth Tue, 31 Jan 2012 17:26:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: khadi http://www.willitchangeyou.com/7-great-ways-to-keep-a-relationship-alive/comment-page-1/#comment-42274 khadi Sun, 16 Oct 2011 20:47:27 +0000 http://www.willitchangeyou.com/?p=962#comment-42274 hi i am iranain and speak not very well please i help me for understand it hi
i am iranain and speak not very well
please i help me for understand it

]]> By: katerina http://www.willitchangeyou.com/7-great-ways-to-keep-a-relationship-alive/comment-page-1/#comment-38381 katerina Wed, 31 Aug 2011 23:19:00 +0000 http://www.willitchangeyou.com/?p=962#comment-38381 it is sometimes hard to keep romance alive i think people have to be more mindfull of what is beeing said and the intencions behind the words the words are youst products of the feelings when you find the feeling you find the love forfivness respect and compromise. does it make sence ? i am going through it at the moment. i feel deep love twards my husband but some things have happened which almoast destroyed our marrige i am learning to be mindfull look for little things and rekindle the love which is there i know if we both do it we can grow together it is sometimes hard to keep romance alive i think people have to be more mindfull of what is beeing said and the intencions behind the words the words are youst products of the feelings when you find the feeling you find the love forfivness respect and compromise. does it make sence ? i am going through it at the moment. i feel deep love twards my husband but some things have happened which almoast destroyed our marrige i am learning to be mindfull look for little things and rekindle the love which is there i know if we both do it we can grow together

]]> By: Destinho ifeanyi http://www.willitchangeyou.com/7-great-ways-to-keep-a-relationship-alive/comment-page-1/#comment-38240 Destinho ifeanyi Mon, 29 Aug 2011 17:31:45 +0000 http://www.willitchangeyou.com/?p=962#comment-38240 Nice one keep it up. Just need to add that at times when there is quarrel learn to say am sorry even when you are sure its not your fault. Nice one keep it up. Just need to add that at times when there is quarrel learn to say am sorry even when you are sure its not your fault.

]]> By: Enock Alexandre http://www.willitchangeyou.com/7-great-ways-to-keep-a-relationship-alive/comment-page-1/#comment-33000 Enock Alexandre Tue, 21 Jun 2011 00:05:42 +0000 http://www.willitchangeyou.com/?p=962#comment-33000 Now wha du yu du wen yu feel like its dead. Or like yu dnt have no fight left. I love her, but ive def fell out of love with her. Im bored to death of my relationship. Now it doesnt help I cheated in the past, but its hard to live together w/o trust. Every step I make is the wrong one and if I just stand there im wrong. Im truly greatful she for gave m, but idk if im strong enough to wait for the trust comes baq. Now wha du yu du wen yu feel like its dead. Or like yu dnt have no fight left. I love her, but ive def fell out of love with her. Im bored to death of my relationship. Now it doesnt help I cheated in the past, but its hard to live together w/o trust. Every step I make is the wrong one and if I just stand there im wrong. Im truly greatful she for gave m, but idk if im strong enough to wait for the trust comes baq.

]]> By: AJAH CHUKWUMA http://www.willitchangeyou.com/7-great-ways-to-keep-a-relationship-alive/comment-page-1/#comment-31130 AJAH CHUKWUMA Wed, 11 May 2011 14:21:47 +0000 http://www.willitchangeyou.com/?p=962#comment-31130 I'm so much happy to come across this way of keeping relationship so alive thanks. But i still want you to addvice me concerning the relationship of my friend. I have a very good friend of my, who was not living very close to me now. But my concern now is how to make this relationship to last, i don't want to offend her because she have not offended me for once. therefore, to me, i can see that she is not even ready to disapoint this relationship so addvice on how to do it so that i will hot her i want her to be happy always thanks. I’m so much happy to come across this way of keeping relationship so alive thanks. But i still want you to addvice me concerning the relationship of my friend. I have a very good friend of my, who was not living very close to me now. But my concern now is how to make this relationship to last, i don’t want to offend her because she have not offended me for once. therefore, to me, i can see that she is not even ready to disapoint this relationship so addvice on how to do it so that i will hot her i want her to be happy always thanks.

]]> By: Re-Upping in Love: Vegas and Dining | The Map Seeker http://www.willitchangeyou.com/7-great-ways-to-keep-a-relationship-alive/comment-page-1/#comment-30878 Re-Upping in Love: Vegas and Dining | The Map Seeker Thu, 05 May 2011 00:08:58 +0000 http://www.willitchangeyou.com/?p=962#comment-30878 [...] it can be the way to pave the way into the future. Taking along some of the basic principles for making love stay , time spent away from it all is time that sometimes stops, just like in the [...] [...] it can be the way to pave the way into the future. Taking along some of the basic principles for making love stay , time spent away from it all is time that sometimes stops, just like in the [...]

]]> By: Christie http://www.willitchangeyou.com/7-great-ways-to-keep-a-relationship-alive/comment-page-1/#comment-30412 Christie Mon, 25 Apr 2011 16:38:24 +0000 http://www.willitchangeyou.com/?p=962#comment-30412 I like your tips and think it's sweet. The only thing I'd like to ad is, when being forgiving and reconizing and accepting that no one is perfect and if you break up that the next person will have an issue(s) that will surface too. This statement is absolutely true, but you can only take so much before maybe re evaluating the relationship (in cases where change doesn't occur and it negatively affects your life) I unfortunately, have had several long relationships that have eventually failed, for one reason or another. The first one being 19 to 26 to the Father of my 2 children (we both thought we would get married & wanted to but were waiting for money to have a wedding) after we ended in under 6 months I got into another serious relationship (that I wasn't prepared for- I realize now) I was in that relationship for 5 years and tried to be cautious by NOT doing what HE wanted me to (moving in with him 3 months later) I stayed living apart but before long I realized I got myself into a more difficult relationship than I originally had, plus I see now I was no where near ready to be in a serious relationship anyway & hadn't healed from the last break up. I was even more confused, because of him needing me (although he was WAY too needy) my point here is, I ended up with a guy that had so many more issues and he didn't care to consider my healing process either or what I needed. All he knew is what he wanted and needed and that was me, even when he knew I was unhappy and didn't want to continue our relationship any longer..he wouldn't accept it. He wanted me regardless of how I felt. I dealt with control, angressiveness, anger, threats, stalking, sob stories, blaming me for everything..he just wouldn't let me make the choice to move on, although I tried for a couple years and lived 70 miles away from him with my family. It was a mess! and BOY did he make me PAY oncce I did stand my ground and refused him completely. I still to this day have to deal with his little ways of playing "victim" and his clever ways he seeks out to try to punish me or humiliate me even with lies.. It's horrible and I hate it. He has been with another girl for the past year and a half of the three and half years we've been broken up..but manages to still put energy into trying to get at me. anyways, so needless to say when him & I broke up, I was completely ready and had been ready for a LONG time, it was a relief and I knew I had to do it. The next thing I know.. a guy I've known for a very long time through our families, and has always liked me "crush" since we were younger, was right there trying to take me out on dates and such..I didn't want to be serious but really was anxious to have some fun for a chance with a guy, I thought I could trust to do just that and at least be friends. That didn't happen. We really connected and couldn't get enough of each other, everything was falling into place, my Dad and him spent time together a lot (my Dad really liked him) we had fun together, he was helpful and considerate, romantic, treated me like his dream girl (as he said I always have been) It just seemed perfect, like love at first sight and meant to be! I ran with it only because I didn't feel that with the last boyfriend so I thought this was a unique meant to be situation and especially, that who it was..all the years we've known each other and he was crushing on me and we were brought together. we got a place together with his kid and my 2 kids and were very excited. Then BOOM! He turned into the most SHOCKING, couldn't believe it...this has to be a BAD dream person.. He would treat me badly, be violent, call me filthy names and in front of our kids, break my house up, cause scenes in front of the kids (it didn't matter) didn't help with any bills and treat me bad, just terrible terribly mean things, putting me in a bind and left empty and more hurt than I could ever even imagine! and from HIM..that confused me even more. I realized this guy has mental problems or something to be that out of control for no good reason and negative about most everything, really HOT and COLD. Then he would cry, cry, cry freak out appologize, be franticly upset for me to please take him back...I know this is typical of abusers, but I got wrapped up in it..because he would actually get me feeling so terrible for him & his issues (although I knew I couldn't take it and shouldn't) he exposed my kids to more crap than they've ever seen. It has been heartbreaking over the past 3 years with him! I've tried to get away from him and know I should move on and need to but then he will improve in some ways, whch got me to thinking, well- maybe if I stick through with him a little longer, it will show him that I'm different than the other girls and what they supposedly put him through, that he is truly loved by me...blah blah blah.. He currently is still with us, but regularly leaves for days on end, because of the way he acts & treats me. To the point where I tell him he has to go (but I think he knows that & starts the stuff to be told that) then plays it back on me. This home is leased by me with just me and my kids on the lease. He has never paid half of all the rent and bills for 3 years now...I have to figure everything out and manage it all, along with his attitudes. it's to the point, I am happy when he is gone, things are peaceful, I don't cry, there is a sense of relief, more relaxed, but yet here and there I will almost feel bad or maybe it's just sad for him, or us? It is a sadness, but I'm not sure if he deserves my feelings for him, at this point.. He has a really sweet and loving genuine side but then out of nowhere can be the cruelest person ever. I do believe he truly wants to be with me and love me and wishes he was better but he isn't treating me well and takes no responsibility for anyhing in life! I can't live this way. So, this is the 3rd long term relationship that has failed 19 years old to 34 years old now..about 15 years total. I'm just saying, in this relationship I tested myself to stay longer and try to see the problems through but truly these problems aren't of my control or ability to fix..they are with him. Things got way worse from the 1st relationship, with difficult issues and people, as I've grown and reached certain successes even while dealing with these ridiculous (at times) relationships..my relationships have gone backwards in quality. Throughout both of the last 2 relationships the Father of my children, would say he wanted us to be back together and he loves me, but we never did anything, or got back together (it was a once in a blue moon conversation) He has been single for the past 8 months, steadily and more regularly tells me he wants his family back, that we are all he wants. My Family Loves Him, I've always loved him and he's the Father of my children..but I don't trust him in certain ways either (from when we were together and a lot younger) All of this is absolutely CRAZY and only a touch of how much more difficult it can get, the more relationships you have. I just want to be stable, as happy as possible, raise my children as best I can, and share my life with someone and enjoy it and help EACH OTHER! I'm so confused of what to do next..I really feel this guy needs to learn what life is really about without the help from me, that he doesn't appreciate anyways and takes advantage of..I want to be happy and he makes me mostly nervous. sorry to go on & on...but any support and advice is appreciated! It just feels good to get this off my chest, without having to say it to someone I know. Thanks for reading, to anyone that reads this:) I like your tips and think it’s sweet. The only thing I’d like to ad is, when being forgiving and reconizing and accepting that no one is perfect and if you break up that the next person will have an issue(s) that will surface too. This statement is absolutely true, but you can only take so much before maybe re evaluating the relationship (in cases where change doesn’t occur and it negatively affects your life) I unfortunately, have had several long relationships that have eventually failed, for one reason or another. The first one being 19 to 26 to the Father of my 2 children (we both thought we would get married & wanted to but were waiting for money to have a wedding) after we ended in under 6 months I got into another serious relationship (that I wasn’t prepared for- I realize now) I was in that relationship for 5 years and tried to be cautious by NOT doing what HE wanted me to (moving in with him 3 months later) I stayed living apart but before long I realized I got myself into a more difficult relationship than I originally had, plus I see now I was no where near ready to be in a serious relationship anyway & hadn’t healed from the last break up. I was even more confused, because of him needing me (although he was WAY too needy) my point here is, I ended up with a guy that had so many more issues and he didn’t care to consider my healing process either or what I needed. All he knew is what he wanted and needed and that was me, even when he knew I was unhappy and didn’t want to continue our relationship any longer..he wouldn’t accept it. He wanted me regardless of how I felt. I dealt with control, angressiveness, anger, threats, stalking, sob stories, blaming me for everything..he just wouldn’t let me make the choice to move on, although I tried for a couple years and lived 70 miles away from him with my family. It was a mess! and BOY did he make me PAY oncce I did stand my ground and refused him completely. I still to this day have to deal with his little ways of playing “victim” and his clever ways he seeks out to try to punish me or humiliate me even with lies.. It’s horrible and I hate it. He has been with another girl for the past year and a half of the three and half years we’ve been broken up..but manages to still put energy into trying to get at me.
anyways, so needless to say when him & I broke up, I was completely ready and had been ready for a LONG time, it was a relief and I knew I had to do it. The next thing I know.. a guy I’ve known for a very long time through our families, and has always liked me “crush” since we were younger, was right there trying to take me out on dates and such..I didn’t want to be serious but really was anxious to have some fun for a chance with a guy, I thought I could trust to do just that and at least be friends. That didn’t happen. We really connected and couldn’t get enough of each other, everything was falling into place, my Dad and him spent time together a lot (my Dad really liked him) we had fun together, he was helpful and considerate, romantic, treated me like his dream girl (as he said I always have been) It just seemed perfect, like love at first sight and meant to be! I ran with it only because I didn’t feel that with the last boyfriend so I thought this was a unique meant to be situation and especially, that who it was..all the years we’ve known each other and he was crushing on me and we were brought together. we got a place together with his kid and my 2 kids and were very excited. Then BOOM! He turned into the most SHOCKING, couldn’t believe it…this has to be a BAD dream person.. He would treat me badly, be violent, call me filthy names and in front of our kids, break my house up, cause scenes in front of the kids (it didn’t matter) didn’t help with any bills and treat me bad, just terrible terribly mean things, putting me in a bind and left empty and more hurt than I could ever even imagine! and from HIM..that confused me even more. I realized this guy has mental problems or something to be that out of control for no good reason and negative about most everything, really HOT and COLD. Then he would cry, cry, cry freak out appologize, be franticly upset for me to please take him back…I know this is typical of abusers, but I got wrapped up in it..because he would actually get me feeling so terrible for him & his issues (although I knew I couldn’t take it and shouldn’t) he exposed my kids to more crap than they’ve ever seen. It has been heartbreaking over the past 3 years with him! I’ve tried to get away from him and know I should move on and need to but then he will improve in some ways, whch got me to thinking, well- maybe if I stick through with him a little longer, it will show him that I’m different than the other girls and what they supposedly put him through, that he is truly loved by me…blah blah blah.. He currently is still with us, but regularly leaves for days on end, because of the way he acts & treats me. To the point where I tell him he has to go (but I think he knows that & starts the stuff to be told that) then plays it back on me. This home is leased by me with just me and my kids on the lease. He has never paid half of all the rent and bills for 3 years now…I have to figure everything out and manage it all, along with his attitudes. it’s to the point, I am happy when he is gone, things are peaceful, I don’t cry, there is a sense of relief, more relaxed, but yet here and there I will almost feel bad or maybe it’s just sad for him, or us? It is a sadness, but I’m not sure if he deserves my feelings for him, at this point.. He has a really sweet and loving genuine side but then out of nowhere can be the cruelest person ever. I do believe he truly wants to be with me and love me and wishes he was better but he isn’t treating me well and takes no responsibility for anyhing in life! I can’t live this way.
So, this is the 3rd long term relationship that has failed 19 years old to 34 years old now..about 15 years total. I’m just saying, in this relationship I tested myself to stay longer and try to see the problems through but truly these problems aren’t of my control or ability to fix..they are with him. Things got way worse from the 1st relationship, with difficult issues and people, as I’ve grown and reached certain successes even while dealing with these ridiculous (at times) relationships..my relationships have gone backwards in quality.
Throughout both of the last 2 relationships the Father of my children, would say he wanted us to be back together and he loves me, but we never did anything, or got back together (it was a once in a blue moon conversation) He has been single for the past 8 months, steadily and more regularly tells me he wants his family back, that we are all he wants. My Family Loves Him, I’ve always loved him and he’s the Father of my children..but I don’t trust him in certain ways either (from when we were together and a lot younger) All of this is absolutely CRAZY and only a touch of how much more difficult it can get, the more relationships you have. I just want to be stable, as happy as possible, raise my children as best I can, and share my life with someone and enjoy it and help EACH OTHER!
I’m so confused of what to do next..I really feel this guy needs to learn what life is really about without the help from me, that he doesn’t appreciate anyways and takes advantage of..I want to be happy and he makes me mostly nervous.
sorry to go on & on…but any support and advice is appreciated! It just feels good to get this off my chest, without having to say it to someone I know.
Thanks for reading, to anyone that reads this:)

]]> By: varun http://www.willitchangeyou.com/7-great-ways-to-keep-a-relationship-alive/comment-page-1/#comment-28603 varun Sun, 20 Mar 2011 11:58:46 +0000 http://www.willitchangeyou.com/?p=962#comment-28603 Hey! Very nice article.....i'm in a 5 month relationship and found this piece of writing very enlightening....the one thing that guys should do to keep their relationship alive and amplified is 'treat their girl like a princess,like she's royalty'...... Hey! Very nice article…..i’m in a 5 month relationship and found this piece of writing very enlightening….the one thing that guys should do to keep their relationship alive and amplified is ‘treat their girl like a princess,like she’s royalty’……

]]> By: Ross http://www.willitchangeyou.com/7-great-ways-to-keep-a-relationship-alive/comment-page-1/#comment-226 Ross Wed, 01 Oct 2008 23:54:41 +0000 http://www.willitchangeyou.com/?p=962#comment-226 Hey Blogger - thanks for your comment, no probs for the link Hey Blogger – thanks for your comment, no probs for the link

]]> By: BloggerNewbie http://www.willitchangeyou.com/7-great-ways-to-keep-a-relationship-alive/comment-page-1/#comment-222 BloggerNewbie Wed, 01 Oct 2008 18:18:16 +0000 http://www.willitchangeyou.com/?p=962#comment-222 great advice. Another way to keep your relationship alive (and well) - appreciate each other and don't take for granted the "little" things that are done for each other every day. My husband says thank you every time I cook dinner! I never get tired of hearing it! And thank you so much for the acknowledgment at the top of your blog. I love it! Thank you. great advice. Another way to keep your relationship alive (and well) – appreciate each other and don’t take for granted the “little” things that are done for each other every day. My husband says thank you every time I cook dinner! I never get tired of hearing it!

And thank you so much for the acknowledgment at the top of your blog. I love it! Thank you.

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